My Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend
I don't even
know where to start. Sorrow, depression, dejection, resignation etc,
all now knows me by name. The love is dead, I loath her for the
betrayal, sex is dead, joy gone. It's been 8 months since I made the
startling discovery, I have tried to live like It didn't happen but that
didn't work. I have tried to brace it like a man and move past it, that
too didn't work. We have had several talks about it hoping it will heal
my wound but it ain't working too. I have lost my strength to move on,
my drive for success and happiness is dead. I roam aimlessly now most
times not having a clear vision cos my mind is messed up. Several times I
narrowly escaped ramming into a car ahead of me. I look at women now
with disdain (my apologies) and infidelity boldly carved on their
foreheads.What
got me all messed up like this? I found out my wife was having an
affair with her senior colleague in the office who also doubles as a
family friend. How did I get to know, I stumbled into an amorous email
exchange between them when I wanted to help her apply for a job which
has a better prospect than where she was then. It was the subject of the
mail that excited my curiosity. The subject says "Ifemi" which in
Yoruba means "My Love". What is more disturbing is that they were having
unprotected sex while my baby was still bosom feeding (no wonder my
smart girl stopped suckling at 5 months). Our marriage will be 4 years
in a couple of months time and is blessed with an adorable daughter.
They both claimed it was a mistake. While I am battling to believe them,
it will be of interest to note that, they didn't go to bed just once
which nullifies the claim of it being a mistake. And it will be
foolhardy for anyone to believe that. One cannot make a mistake twice.
The second time usually is a choice that is dully premeditated.
I
am barely sticking what is left of the marriage just because of my
little girl. She will be 2 in no distant time. Separation and divorce is
my only option now since every other option has left me worse off. I
have lost so much weight in these few months. I also want to state here
that I have never cheated on my wife before. I keep asking myself what
will push me to cheat because sincerely, my wife has it all; beauty and
brains. Like the few people both male and female will say when they see
her picture either on my phone or ipad "Guy, you carry eye enter wife
market".
One question I want answers to now is: our court
marriage did not happen here in Lagos, can I file for dissolution of the
union here in Lagos?
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